ROCKLAND COUNTY – August 16, 2023 – The transition from carefree summer days to the structure of the school year can often trigger anxiety in children. The anticipation of new teachers, classes, and social dynamics can create stress for many young minds. As parents and guardians, there are several strategies we can employ to help ease back-to-school anxiety and make this transition smoother for our kids.
1. Effective Communication: One of the most important steps is to open a channel of communication with your child. Talk to them about their expectations and fears related to the upcoming school year. Sit down and have an honest conversation, asking them how they are feeling and what they might be worried about. Validating their emotions and concerns lets them know that their feelings are acknowledged and understood. And often just talking about their fears can help reduce the anxiety around them.
2. Providing Relaxation Time: As the back-to-school season approaches, make sure to balance their schedules with plenty of relaxation time. Offer them activities they enjoy to unwind, such as reading, drawing, playing a favorite game or getting outside. Additionally, create something for them to look forward to on weekends, whether it’s a family outing, a movie night, or a special treat. This not only helps reduce anxiety but also instills a sense of excitement amidst their routine.
3. Family Check-Ins: Establish a daily routine of having family check-ins. A simple How was your day? can do wonders. Encourage your child to share their experiences and feelings. This practice not only keeps you informed about their emotional state but also reassures them that they have a supportive space to express themselves.
4. Private Conversations: While family check-ins are beneficial, it’s equally important to speak to your child individually. This allows them to express their feelings in a private setting, which might encourage them to open up more about their worries and anxieties. Sometimes, children might not feel comfortable sharing with siblings, so providing this one-on-one time can be immensely helpful.
5. Setting Attainable Goals: Another effective approach is to encourage your child to set small, attainable goals for the school year. These goals serve as guiding lights, providing a sense of direction and accomplishment. By breaking down larger aspirations into smaller, manageable tasks, children gain a clearer perspective on their journey. Achieving these smaller milestones boosts their confidence and reminds them that progress is within their grasp. This practice not only aids in alleviating back-to-school anxiety but also cultivates vital skills like planning, perseverance, and self-motivation that will benefit them far beyond the classroom.
Parents might have anxiety about children going back to school as well. Remember to speak with your spouse or friends about your own concerns and participate in activities that help encourage your own healthy mindset. Many of the strategies outlined above work well for adults too.
Information provided by:
Tara Brock, Home-Based Crisis Intervention Coordinator for Rockland Behavioral Health Response Team
(BHRT), MA in Psychology and LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor).
